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Introduction to Blog: “Twinning!”

Attention parents of twins, triplets, quads, and (gulp!) more: I have advice for you on how to raise your children in an emotionally healthy way. The good news is that the advice does not come from me. The great news is that the advice comes from twins and triplets themselves! I interview adult multiples to […]

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When Naming My Twins, I Should Have Considered the NFL?

  When naming my twins, apparently I should have considered the NFL. I’ll explain. E-A-G-L-E-S It has been an exciting week for our Philadelphia-based family, given the Eagle’s Superbowl victory. For days prior to the big win, our five-year-old daughters Eden and Tal overheard lots of discussion about the game. Their preschool teachers even taught […]

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Pressuring our Twins to Be Each Other’s Best Friends

In our house, we have pressured our daughters Eden and Tal to be each other’s best friend. And it’s bad parenting. I know this now, after having interviewed more than 80 twins. My husband is still coming along. Two weeks ago, when Tal said her best friend “in the whole world” is Kinneret, my husband […]

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(Lack of) Appreciation of Twinness: “But You Have Each Other!”

This post is a quick rant about ingratitude. It’s a pet peeve of mine. My five-year old twin daughters showed a major lack of appreciation of twinness this week. Here’s how it played out: Their camp ended and I registered them for a ‘filler camp’ of sorts – it’s a camp for kids whose parents […]

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Competition Between Twins: The Ugly Truth

My twin daughters are so competitive with each other. Before we even start our day, I’ve heard the words “I win!” at least eight times. She who gets dressed first, she who touches the car door first, she who fastens her seatbelt first, etc. In some ways it’s a gift, really. What parent wouldn’t want […]

Nature vs. Nurture

In Nature Versus Nurture, A Clear Winner Emerges

See this graham cracker? It suffered unfortunate mishandling by the author of this post. {In my defense,  graham cracker sleeves are customarily difficult to tear open. And when the plastic doesn’t open wide enough, the graham cracker breaks. Simple as that.} This very graham cracker inspired me to write about nature versus nurture. Here’s why: […]

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“He Really Gets Me”

The Encouraging Dads Project asked me to write a post for them and the result is this article titled, “He Really Gets Me.” It’s about my dad and something he helped me realize as I endeavor to be the best mom to my twin daughters that I can be. I hope you will check out […]

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Less Time Together as a Family Can Be a Good Thing

We are not a Donna Reed family that eats dinner together every night. I know that’s not ideal. Many studies show that families who eat together have young children with higher vocabulary levels, adolescents who have more nutritionally-sound eating habits, and children of all ages with fewer behavioral problems. Despite all that research, my husband […]

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A Twin’s Spouse: The Ham in a Ham Sandwich?

Well-known twins Jenna Bush Hager and Barbara Bush (former President George W. Bush’s daughters) were featured in a 2015 segment on NBC’s Today Show. They discussed their deep bond from childhood and that they continue to be best friends throughout adulthood. Jenna and Barbara joked that their sense of humor is unique to them. They […]

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Are Twins More Like Best Friends or Spouses?

In her interview on TED Radio Hour, couples therapist and author Esther Perel discusses her philosophies on love and marital relationships. She dismisses the popular claim that a spouse could be one’s best friend. She explains, “Many people treat their partners in ways they would never treat their best friends. And [they] allow themselves to […]

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Here’s What’s Good About Your Twins Being “Bad”

What good could possibly come from your twins being “bad” (or misbehaving)? When our kids were three years old, we implemented a rewards system to get them to stay in their beds at night. A colorful sticker chart incentivized them to stay in bed after we left the room. One night, we looked in the […]