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Introduction to Blog: “Twinning!”

Attention parents of twins, triplets, quads, and (gulp!) more: I have advice for you on how to raise your children in an emotionally healthy way. The good news is that the advice does not come from me. The great news is that the advice comes from twins and triplets themselves! I interview adult multiples to […]

twin death

“I Used to Be a Twin”: When One Twin Dies

When I saw the title of this article in the Chicago Sun Times, I stopped breathing for a second. “I Used to Be an Identical Twin.” In it, the author, Mary Mitchell, pens a beautiful tribute to her identical sister Marie who recently died of cancer. Marie left behind grieving children, grandchildren, and her beloved […]

therapist for your twins

How to Find a Therapist for Your Twins

Someone recently asked me whether I could refer her to a therapist for her twin daughters. Thankfully, I did know a therapist in her state who specialized in treating twins. Easy. Done. But it made me anxious to think I might get asked this question by someone who lives in a state where I don’t […]

separating your twins in school

Whether to Separate Your Twins in School – Pandemic Edition

Should your twins be in the same class in school? The answer depends on whether we’re in the middle of a pandemic. What I’ve Said in the Past In this post, I’ve compared separating my kids at school and keeping them together in the same bunk at camp. In the debate as to whether to […]

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Updated: Is a Twin Her Sister’s Keeper?

Two years ago, I wrote a post about twins’ feeling responsible for their co-twins — for their well being and sometimes, responsible for their failures and mistakes. I have revisited the topic and expanded on it as  a guest writer for the Twin Pregnancy and Beyond website. You can read the full article here. Let […]

Washington Post

My Response to the Washington Post Opinion Piece by a Mother of Twins

I was intrigued by a recent opinion piece in the Washington Post, titled, “I’m a mom of twins. The movie Three Identical Strangers changed how I parent them.” It was written by Ellen Nordberg, a mother of identical twin boys. Three Identical Strangers, the moment that everyone remembers I loathe spoilers so I will not […]

separate classes makes the heart grow fonder

Separate Classes Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

My very informal study has shown that enrolling my five-year old daughters in separate classes makes their hearts grow fonder. Separation during the school year Throughout the school year, I have them in separate classes. They have been separated since the early days of preschool when they were around two years old. One of them […]

Joe Rawlinson

Guest Blogger Joe Rawlinson: How to Find Joy in the Journey with Twins

Friends – I wanted to share this article written by guest blogger Joe Rawlinson (Dad’s Guide to Twins), who is an excellent resource for fathers (and mothers!) of twins. The original article can be found on his website here. How to Find Joy in the Journey with Twins With the news that you’re expecting twins […]

book announcement

Book Announcement: Twinsight is Here!

As you may know, I’ve spent the past 5 years researching and writing Twinsight: A Guide to Raising Emotionally Healthy Twins. This is the first book on the market to help parents navigate the complicated social, emotional, and relationship challenges that arise in families with twins. I interviewed more than 80 twins and siblings of twins, […]

when naming my twins

When Naming My Twins, I Should Have Considered the NFL?

  When naming my twins, apparently I should have considered the NFL. I’ll explain. E-A-G-L-E-S It has been an exciting week for our Philadelphia-based family, given the Eagle’s Superbowl victory. For days prior to the big win, our five-year-old daughters Eden and Tal overheard lots of discussion about the game. Their preschool teachers even taught […]

Pressuring Twins best friends

Pressuring our Twins to Be Each Other’s Best Friends

In our house, we have pressured our daughters Eden and Tal to be each other’s best friend. And it’s bad parenting. I know this now, after having interviewed more than 80 twins. My husband is still coming along. Two weeks ago, when Tal said her best friend “in the whole world” is Kinneret, my husband […]