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Updated: Is a Twin Her Sister’s Keeper?

Two years ago, I wrote a post about twins’ feeling responsible for their co-twins — for their well being and sometimes, responsible for their failures and mistakes. I have revisited the topic and expanded on it as  a guest writer for the Twin Pregnancy and Beyond website. You can read the full article here. Let […]

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Separate Classes Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

My very informal study has shown that enrolling my five-year old daughters in separate classes makes their hearts grow fonder. Separation during the school year Throughout the school year, I have them in separate classes. They have been separated since the early days of preschool when they were around two years old. One of them […]

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Book Announcement: Twinsight is Here!

As you may know, I’ve spent the past 5 years researching and writing Twinsight: A Guide to Raising Emotionally Healthy Twins. This is the first book on the market to help parents navigate the complicated social, emotional, and relationship challenges that arise in families with twins. I interviewed more than 80 twins and siblings of twins, […]

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When Naming My Twins, I Should Have Considered the NFL?

  When naming my twins, apparently I should have considered the NFL. I’ll explain. E-A-G-L-E-S It has been an exciting week for our Philadelphia-based family, given the Eagle’s Superbowl victory. For days prior to the big win, our five-year-old daughters Eden and Tal overheard lots of discussion about the game. Their preschool teachers even taught […]

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Pressuring our Twins to Be Each Other’s Best Friends

In our house, we have pressured our daughters Eden and Tal to be each other’s best friend. And it’s bad parenting. I know this now, after having interviewed more than 80 twins. My husband is still coming along. Two weeks ago, when Tal said her best friend “in the whole world” is Kinneret, my husband […]

But You Have Each Other

(Lack of) Appreciation of Twinness: “But You Have Each Other!”

This post is a quick rant about ingratitude. It’s a pet peeve of mine. My five-year old twin daughters showed a major lack of appreciation of twinness this week. Here’s how it played out: Their camp ended and I registered them for a ‘filler camp’ of sorts – it’s a camp for kids whose parents […]

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Competition Between Twins: The Ugly Truth

My twin daughters are so competitive with each other. Before we even start our day, I’ve heard the words “I win!” at least eight times. She who gets dressed first, she who touches the car door first, she who fastens her seatbelt first, etc. In some ways it’s a gift, really. What parent wouldn’t want […]

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“He Really Gets Me”

The Encouraging Dads Project asked me to write a post for them and the result is this article titled, “He Really Gets Me.” It’s about my dad and something he helped me realize as I endeavor to be the best mom to my twin daughters that I can be. I hope you will check out […]

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Less Time Together as a Family Can Be a Good Thing

We are not a Donna Reed family that eats dinner together every night. I know that’s not ideal. Many studies show that families who eat together have young children with higher vocabulary levels, adolescents who have more nutritionally-sound eating habits, and children of all ages with fewer behavioral problems. Despite all that research, my husband […]

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A Twin’s Spouse: The Ham in a Ham Sandwich?

Well-known twins Jenna Bush Hager and Barbara Bush (former President George W. Bush’s daughters) were featured in a 2015 segment on NBC’s Today Show. They discussed their deep bond from childhood and that they continue to be best friends throughout adulthood. Jenna and Barbara joked that their sense of humor is unique to them. They […]