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myths about the joy of having twins

The Top Five Myths About the “Joys” of Having Twins

Stop me if you’ve heard this before: the public’s perception of having twins is vastly different from the reality of it. I know I usually post about something specifically related to raising emotionally healthy twins. I’m going to deviate from my theme this week in light of a recent conversation I had with a mom […]

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Is a Twin Her Sister’s Keeper? Feeling Personally Responsible for One’s Twin

Many siblings feel personally responsible for one another. I found it touching to read about former President Bill Clinton’s relationship with his younger brother Roger (not a twin). In his book My Life, Clinton describes how he felt when he learned that Roger had been videotaped selling cocaine to an undercover police officer. Roger was […]

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Helping Your Twin Child Find Himself (His SELF)

In my last post, I discussed the challenges twins face in finding their own unique identities. This week, I have tips on how you, as a parent, can help your twin child establish his identity — outside of the twinship. Preschool/Toddler Years I discussed this topic in my post titled “Helping Your Twins Form Friendships […]

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The Struggle to Find Yourself (Your Self) When You’re A Twin

In a recent episode of the humorous sitcom Blackish, Pops (played by Laurence Fishburne) is roughhousing with one of his grandchildren who is a twin. “Be careful!” yells Pops’ son Dre (Anthony Anderson), “He’s half of a set…!” In real life, however, I think most parents of twins try to show their children that they […]

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The Top Seven Questions Twins and Triplets Hate to be Asked

From the time I was knowingly pregnant with twins (because I do remember those weeks when I didn’t know there were two in there!), someone had something to say about it. To this day, I still encounter a steady flow of inquiries. Strangers ask whether twins run in my family (which is often the indirect […]

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Helping Your Twins Form Friendships With Others

In my last post, I explained why having a built-in playmate isn’t always the best thing for your twins. What, then, should parents do to help their twin children branch out socially? Here are the top tips: 1. Schedule Separate Play Dates A parent of toddler-age twins will find it simply impossible to schedule separate […]


Yes, Your Kid has a Built-In Playmate, But That’s not Always a Good Thing

As a parent of twins, you’ve probably felt grateful that your kids have a built-in playmate. Once your kids reached toddlerhood, it became clear that you didn’t have to spend every second entertaining them or scrambling to find play dates for them because they had each other. Having a built-in playmate was ideal, right? Not […]

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Should You Host a Separate Birthday Party for Each Twin?

As if researching inexpensive balloon artists for one birthday party isn’t enough, a parent of twins should now do it twice?! Dr. Joan Friedman, author of Emotionally Healthy Twins: A New Philosophy for Parenting Two Unique Children, strongly advises that parents host separate birthday parties for their twin children. Having a separate party shows your […]