When I saw the title of this article in the Chicago Sun Times, I stopped breathing for a second. “I Used to Be an Identical Twin.” In it, the author, Mary Mitchell, pens a beautiful tribute to her identical sister Marie who recently died of cancer. Marie left behind grieving children, grandchildren, and her beloved […]
Someone recently asked me whether I could refer her to a therapist for her twin daughters. Thankfully, I did know a therapist in her state who specialized in treating twins. Easy. Done. But it made me anxious to think I might get asked this question by someone who lives in a state where I don’t […]
Two years ago, I wrote a post about twins’ feeling responsible for their co-twins — for their well being and sometimes, responsible for their failures and mistakes. I have revisited the topic and expanded on it as a guest writer for the Twin Pregnancy and Beyond website. You can read the full article here. Let […]
My very informal study has shown that enrolling my five-year old daughters in separate classes makes their hearts grow fonder. Separation during the school year Throughout the school year, I have them in separate classes. They have been separated since the early days of preschool when they were around two years old. One of them […]
As you may know, I’ve spent the past 5 years researching and writing Twinsight: A Guide to Raising Emotionally Healthy Twins. This is the first book on the market to help parents navigate the complicated social, emotional, and relationship challenges that arise in families with twins. I interviewed more than 80 twins and siblings of twins, […]
When naming my twins, apparently I should have considered the NFL. I’ll explain. E-A-G-L-E-S It has been an exciting week for our Philadelphia-based family, given the Eagle’s Superbowl victory. For days prior to the big win, our five-year-old daughters Eden and Tal overheard lots of discussion about the game. Their preschool teachers even taught […]
In our house, we have pressured our daughters Eden and Tal to be each other’s best friend. And it’s bad parenting. I know this now, after having interviewed more than 80 twins. My husband is still coming along. Two weeks ago, when Tal said her best friend “in the whole world” is Kinneret, my husband […]
This post is a quick rant about ingratitude. It’s a pet peeve of mine. My five-year old twin daughters showed a major lack of appreciation of twinness this week. Here’s how it played out: Their camp ended and I registered them for a ‘filler camp’ of sorts – it’s a camp for kids whose parents […]
My twin daughters are so competitive with each other. Before we even start our day, I’ve heard the words “I win!” at least eight times. She who gets dressed first, she who touches the car door first, she who fastens her seatbelt first, etc. In some ways it’s a gift, really. What parent wouldn’t want […]
The Encouraging Dads Project asked me to write a post for them and the result is this article titled, “He Really Gets Me.” It’s about my dad and something he helped me realize as I endeavor to be the best mom to my twin daughters that I can be. I hope you will check out […]